An Phong “AP” Vo

Couples Counseling

Did your marriage or partnership start with exciting thoughts of new beginnings, plans and dreams, and hope for the future? Did you merge your lives and friendships, and think of plans to grow your family? Were you in love, with a deep connection and shared togetherness? Did you imagine yourselves growing old together, committed and in love, knowing that your marriage would beat the odds? Has your relationship changed to having more conflict and less connection? Is there more arguing (or silence) and less understanding? Does it feel more like a job, with assigned tasks, and going through the motions—make breakfast, take kids to school, rush to work, etc? Have you drifted apart, leaving you longing for more? Has one or both of you started overworking, over-parenting, and being less available? Is there infidelity, anxiety, anger, or depression? Has the stress affected you or your children’s health?

If any of these things are true, I can help.

Marriage and intimate relationships are challenging because we come to them with our individual life experiences, both good and bad, our unique personalities, and wants desires, and expectations, which end up clashing as the years go by. But, this doesn’t mean we can’t turn things around and find the love and joy you used to have! If you’re struggling, it’s not your fault. Most of us were not given the tools to engage and grow with one another as a spouse, partner, lover, and parent, in a healthy way. That’s where I come into the picture— to help you sort through the challenges, identify areas you may not be aware of, and work to inject joy and create healing and connection. And, I will do this in a supportive and caring, non-judgmental way, not taking sides, letting you both feel heard, supported, and understood.

Divorce and Mediation Services

Whether you are considering or are certain about divorcing, let’s talk. As a couples therapist, I have years of experience helping couples make that ultimate decision in a way that is best for them. Before hiring an attorney, consider speaking to a mediator. Meditation helps to reduce conflicts, establish agreements, and save you a great deal of time and money. I am a trained attorney and certified mediator and have worked with many families over the years. You will see that I am objective and neutral, and do not take sides. Instead, I help to resolve conflicts and facilitate negotiations to help ensure that your family unit “wins”.

Individual Counseling

I also specialize in helping adults thrive in their relationships with their partners, friends, and family. I can help you with feelings of perfectionism unworthiness, shame, and grief or loss. I utilize a strength-based and solution-focused approach to ensure you are always meeting your goals in sessions with me. I know it can be hard to reach out for help, especially if you are worried about increased conflict or fighting, etc., talking to someone you’ve never met about private matters, and if therapy or mediation will work for you. Taking the step to meet with me and talk is better than staying stuck or adversarial. I truly want to help you through this challenging time in your life. So, take the next step towards healing and bringing peace to you and your family.