When Life Feels Like A Hot Mess, Remember These 75 Reasons Everything Will Be Okay
It’s the question at the back of your mind, especially when you’re feeling overwhelmed by negative experiences and ominous news reports: “Am I going to be okay?”
You’ve only got so much headspace and energy to work with.
You can’t be the world’s fixer.
You can’t even control everything that happens in your life, and that’s scary.
Sometimes, things happen that leave you feeling bruised, bleeding, and in need of a break.
In this post, you’re going to learn the reasons why everything will it be okay.
How To Be OK With Where You Are in Life Right Now
Feeling comfortable in your own skin and mind is the spine of good mental health. But it’s not always easy, especially when life insists on kicking you when you’re down. So how do you get into a good headspace regardless of outside stressors and circumstances? Let’s look at a trio of ideas.
- Meditate: The mind is the body’s motherboard. So when you’re feeling out of sorts, power down the platform and let it rest. Studies show that regular meditation improves cognitive function and reduces symptoms linked to anxiety and stress. You can’t eradicate challenges by sitting in quiet contemplation. While it’s not a magic bullet, practicing fills you with the energy, patience, and clarity needed to address issues head-on without unraveling.
- Be Grateful / Practice Gratitude: Research proves that grateful people handle life’s blows better because they have more control over their reactions and are more aware of their social and natural resources. So when life is using you as a punching bag, remember the things you’re thankful for. Don’t forget the small stuff, like the ability to breathe, having a device to access the internet, and the clothes on your back.
- Remember You’re Here: If you’re reading this, you’ve made it. You’re alive. Your existence is proof that you’ve weathered challenges, arrived at this spot, and have what it takes to keep going. In these moments, consider the idea of impermanence and energy. The world is constantly changing; your current situation is just for now. Be grateful for the lessons adversity teaches and, if appropriate, apply them.
How Do I Know If Everything Will Be OK?
We know you can’t see the future, and neither can we.
So, how do you know everything will be okay?
You don’t.
All you really have to work with is now.
Whether your present actions positively impact the future is more a matter of trust than of knowing.
You could do everything right, and it could still blow up in your face. And sometimes, you do everything wrong, and something good comes out of it. Life is nuts.
So, what can you do about it?
- Take responsibility for your own words and actions. Because they still matter.
- Tell yourself, “I am going to be okay,” and mean it.
- Take daily action to prove yourself right.
- Find ways to help someone else get through a difficult time.
- Find your favorite reasons to keep trying from the list below.
Will Everything Be Okay? 75 Reasons You’ve Got This
We rounded up 75 reasons to tell yourself everything will be okay, even when everything in your life feels wrong.
You don’t have to be positive all the time for these to work.
Just be open to different perspectives and willing to try something new.
1. It has to be. Or it has to be okay enough to keep trying to make things better — for you and someone else.
2. You’re stronger and more capable than you realize.
3. You’re not dead. You still have this moment and the freedom to decide how you spend it.
4. Whether you’re okay or not okay largely depends on your thinking. You have more power than you’ve used up to this point.
5. You’ve made it this far for a reason. You don’t have to know the reason yet.
6. There’s always more to learn.
7. You can breathe. Sometimes, all you need to keep going is to take a breath and to feel yourself taking it.
8. Everything will be okay because you and others like you will make sure of it. You’ll do everything you can to leave the world better than you found it.
9. You’re not alone. Even if you don’t see your team working alongside you, you’re not working alone. If your cause is just, trust that others have taken it on, too.
10. Whatever you do, small as it seems to you, matters to someone. The way you treat people has long-term cumulative effects. You are the snowball. Start rolling.
11. You don’t need someone else to give you serenity. If you want it, it’s yours already. Claim it. And show the world (and yourself) how it’s done.
12. “We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” ― Joseph Campbell
13. You still have some risks to take to make your life what you want it to be. Don’t be afraid of failure; be afraid of standing still.
14. “Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.” ― David Richo
15. More families out there are raising strong, confident, outspoken, brave, and compassionate young women.
16. More families are raising strong, confident, kind, courageous, and compassionate young men.
17. More parents realize that the younger generations are the future and should be heard.
18. More people are waking up to the reality of privilege and no longer assuming their success is 100% their own doing. Someone who’s less successful now could have done more than you if they’d had the same opportunities.
19. More families consciously affirm and support their child’s gender and sexual identity instead of imposing one on them.
20. People are openly questioning beliefs they’d adopted to please other people — and are now working on growing into the people they want to be.
21. You are resilient — and no doubt far more resilient than you realize.
22. You have a knack for seeing the good in others and for finding the open window when a door closes in your face. And you attract those who do the same. Or they learn that from watching you.
23. You can do hard things. And you make yourself do hard things every day. It’s almost your love language.
24. “Discovering the truth about ourselves is a lifetime’s work, but it’s worth the effort.” ― Fred Rogers
25. Freshly baked bread still smells like fresh-baked bread.
26. It’s still possible to find friends who genuinely want to know how you are.
27. The people who don’t care about you have zero impact on your ability to grow.
28. “You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ― Maya Angelou
29. You are enough just as you are. You don’t need to be half of a couple to be a complete and lovable person.
30. Nothing lasts forever – even the bad things.
31. “Often when you think you’re at the end of something, you’re at the beginning of something else.” ― Fred Rogers
32. You know how important self-care is, and you’re not afraid to make room for it. What can you do for yourself today?
33. This moment is teaching you something you need to learn.
34. Even if no one else shows up for you, you can still show up for yourself. You can still show yourself you’re worth the trouble, worth forgiving, and worth taking risks for.
35. The people who challenge you can help you grow into someone you genuinely like.
36. All you need to focus on right now is doing the next right thing. Don’t worry about what it might lead to or whether it will be enough.
37. Right now, someone out there is creating a TV series or movie with your kind of humor in it. And Netflix was made for days like these.
38. Those books you bought won’t read themselves.
39. Because some things can still make you smile. Think of one as you take your next step.
40. People still offer random acts of kindness toward strangers, just because.
41. Your superpower is getting back up every time you get knocked down. You will find your way through this.
42. The next step isn’t always forward. Sometimes you have to backtrack or take a detour to find the path you need.
43. Sometimes, all you need is a little something to shake up your routine. And sometimes, you just need a different routine.
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44. You’ll feel better on the other side of that thing you’ve been avoiding.
45. You don’t need easy. And you don’t need perfect. You just need to pick one idea and focus your time and energy on that. And you’ll make mistakes. Learn from them.
46. If your glass is half-full, being happy is not about using a smaller glass. It’s about making the most of every drop.
47. Hoarding good things, even if you’re “strategic” about it, is a surefire way to make sure you waste time and space. Let it go, lighten yourself, and live.
48. Time doesn’t heal all wounds. But you don’t need to be 100% healed and whole to be a force for good in this world.
49. You don’t know what’s coming next, but you’re more than capable of facing it, getting through it, and learning from it.
50. Sometimes, all you can do is keep your head above water. Other times you might float effortlessly as the waves roll in. Never assume you’ll always struggle or always find it easy. Just keep trying.
51. You’ve got 99 problems, and quitting when things get real isn’t one of them.
52. You don’t need what you can’t have. Don’t worry about whether you’ll never have it. All you’ve got to deal with is now. Make it count.
53. You don’t need the fear of punishment to treat people the way you want to be treated.
54. No religion has a monopoly on people who do good in the world.
55. Sometimes, all you can do is make your bed, brush your teeth, and dress like the world is watching.
56. You didn’t wake up this morning to just exist. And you don’t have to be a paragon of productivity to make this day worth waking up for.
57. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling right now, even if no one else understands — even if you don’t.
58. You can still do something today to help you feel stronger and more like yourself. Your purpose isn’t about being as useful as possible to other people.
59. You have a right to defend your personal boundaries, even if no one around you respects them — especially if no one around you respects them.
60. This is an opportunity to remind yourself of what you want to do with your life. It will always matter, even when the only steps you can take are small ones.
61. No one feels beautiful or successful, or lovable all the time. No one needs to, either.
62. You don’t have to find the silver lining in everything. You’re allowed to feel hurt, disappointed, angry, or sad without trying to put a positive spin on it.
63. Your way of moving on doesn’t have to look like someone else’s. Your process is your own. Honor it.
64. Even when you admit your mistakes and apologize to those you’ve hurt, some will refuse to forgive. Your growth can’t depend on what other people think of you.
65. Your happiness cannot depend on whether the people you care about love you back. Some of them won’t. And none of them can make up for self-loathing.
66. You can look for people who make the best of any situation and learn from them wherever you are.
67. Being present for others is no substitute for showing up consistently for yourself.
68. Sometimes, self-care is seeing someone as they are and showing them love.
69. Sometimes, self-care is a good book and a silenced phone.
70. You’re allowed to be scared even when others are not. Being brave isn’t the same as being fearless.
71. You don’t need your present to be okay all the time. Your future is an extension of that. And today might be all the future you get.
72. Don’t dwell on the sins of the past. Learn from them, and keep trying to do better. That’s all anyone has a right to expect — of you or of themselves.
73. There’s no shame in asking for help when you need it. Everyone needs help sometimes. Your heroes are no exception (that’s why sidekicks are a thing).
74. You will always be the odd one out in some circles. That’s okay. Focus on being someone you can be proud of. No one else will see you through your lens.
75. Only the dead live in the past. You still have some living to do. Get on that.
Now that you’ve looked through all 75 statements on why everything will be okay — or okay enough — we hope you picked out some favorites to remember.
Some would make great journaling prompts (just saying).
And some might be just what someone you love needs to hear today.